FAQ

Quick, honest answers to the questions we hear most. Each one links to a fuller page if you want the whole picture.

If you're in crisis

This site is educational and not a substitute for professional help. If you are struggling with thoughts of self-harm or in emotional crisis, please reach out now to a qualified professional or a crisis helpline in your country. In many places you can find help fast via the international directory at findahelpline.com, or contact your local emergency services.

Is 'porn addiction' a real, recognized diagnosis?

It's genuinely debated. Major diagnostic systems haven't classified it as a distinct addictive disorder the way substance addictions are, though the WHO recognizes Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder. Either way, if it's harming your life, that's reason enough to seek help. The science.

How do I know if my use is actually a problem?

Less about frequency, more about distress and loss of control — is it harming your life and feeling out of your control? Signs.

Why can't I just stop with willpower?

Because automatic habits bypass willpower and often meet a real emotional need. A system — environment, coping skills, support — works better. Why it's hard.

Will feeling more ashamed help me quit?

Usually the opposite — shame tends to fuel the cycle. Self-compassion supports recovery better. On shame.

What's the single most effective thing I can do?

Talk to a qualified professional. It's the most important step, and help is available. Getting help.

I relapsed. Have I failed?

No — setbacks are a normal part of recovery. What matters is how you respond. Handling relapse.

What are some common myths about this?

That willpower alone should be enough, that one relapse means total failure, and that only certain kinds of people struggle — among others. Myths vs reality.

How do I actually figure out my triggers?

Track urges for a week or two — the time, the feeling, the situation — and patterns usually emerge quickly. Understanding your triggers.

Can digital blockers and filters actually help?

As friction and accountability alongside real strategies and support, yes — on their own, less so. Digital tools & blockers.

Do stress and poor sleep really make a difference?

Yes — being exhausted or under stress genuinely lowers most people's capacity to resist an automatic habit. Stress, sleep & vulnerability.

How do I tell my partner I'm struggling with this?

Carefully, honestly, and ideally with some thought given in advance to timing and what you're asking for. Talking to a partner.

A friend or family member (not a partner) is struggling — what do I do?

Listen without judgment, point toward professional help, and look after your own wellbeing too. Supporting a loved one.

How do I build a routine that actually sticks?

Start smaller than feels necessary, anchor the edges of your day, and replace rather than just remove. Building healthier routines.